How to Lose Half a Million Dollars and Still Smile

March 31, 2009

Of course there was a moment when I was far from smiling. The owner of a property that I had sold five years ago had just informed me the appraised value had more than doubled. Initially I sensed a visceral reaction through my body. “How could I have had such bad timing?” For a moment it felt like a lead weight in my belly then I took a few deep breaths and returned to the certainty I felt when I made the decision; the sense of clarity and well-being that had accompanied the completion of the DecisionClarity process. And then I smiled. Of course this was not supposed to be my gain; it belonged to someone else. My soul had known this and by calming my mind and working with the breath I was able to recreate the assurance that I had done the right thing even though five years had passed. My smile widens as I remember the final moment of my decision-making five years ago: “Would your tenants have left and a buyer have appeared if you were supposed to keep this place?” Over and over again I have witnessed the powerful sense of affirmation that conscious decision-making brings.
In addition it helps to control the voices of dissonance that raise their unwelcome agenda like gatecrashers at a wedding. Sometimes the peace we are feeling about the decision is disrupted. Perhaps we feel regrets or start to second-guess ourselves. In order to manage the conflicted thoughts and feelings we need to return to the sense of clarity that was experienced during the final step of the decision-making. At the moment of completion of the DecisionClarity process there is invariably a powerful sense of calm and well-being. It feels like an affirmation of a “job well done.” It is important to rest in this positive energy for a few moments and associate the state with the decision you have made.  For example you may feel a warm glow of golden energy. By focussing on that golden glow you will notice your uncertainty dissipate. One client was trying to decide whether to leave her employment. When we completed the final step she had great clarity not to leave but if in the future she was offered a severance package, it would be a sign to go. I received a call a couple of months later that a package had been offered and at first caused immediate fear and anxiety, however she was able to recreate the state of peace and calm she had felt about her decision and the anxiety dissipated. She left a well-paid corporate career behind for a new calling as a life and corporate coach and has never looked back. When we connect with our deeper wisdom we need never second-guess the outcome.

Will Spiritual Coaching Work For You?

March 30, 2009

While creating my own sense as to just what spiritual coaching is and to whom it may appeal, I developed a series of statements that may help identify those who may benefit. Here are some examples:

“You feel lost in a fog not sure where your life is going and you feel as though you are missing something important.”

“You feel curious about the direction of your life. You sense there is something more that you could explore but don’t know how to proceed”

‘The idea that life is an unfolding journey appeals to you. You are open to the possibility that it is not solely about outcomes. The traditional appeals of love, money, and power are diminishing in importance.”

“You suspect that at your core is a deeper wisdom that can guide you but you may have trouble connecting with it..”

Find out if you qualify for a complimentary spiritual coaching session. If you answer yes to at least five of these questions then e-mail me at or call 604 739 6977.

1) Are you willing to make a commitment to spiritual coaching for at least five sessions?
2) Do you believe that there is a connection between what happens on the inner landscape and what occurs in your life?
3) Are you willing to try and detach from the day-to-day drama of your life in order to understand the meaning of your experience?
4) Can you accept the concept that you can access a deeper sense of knowing to guide your life?
5) Do you ever feel that adversity in your life contributes to your learning?
6) Have you ever observed consistent patterns that repeat themselves in your life and wondered if there was a reason for them?
7) Do you feel curious about your life and have a sense there is something to explore?