The Two Voices

January 24, 2012

Have you ever noticed the two voices in your head?  They love to engage in a debate whenever you are facing a decision. The journey begins when something occurs to disrupt your equilibrium; for example it may start with being passed over for promotion at work or not getting the raise you deserve and you find yourself entertaining the possibility of moving. Then the forces for change begin to muster their strength like an army preparing to invade: you don’t feel motivated, they don’t treat you well, the money should be better, you don’t really “love” what you do, you want to work with nicer, more positive people and so on and so on. You convince yourself that it is time. Then you go to bed, and at 3.00 a.m. you wake up and you hear another voice, “Are you crazy?”

The second voice begins to outline its argument in relentless and challenging terms: this is not the time, the job market is bad, you will lose your tenure, what about the benefits and your security, it could be so much worse, money isn’t everything, maybe this is about you not the job and so on and so on. Welcome to the battleground of thoughts, feelings and fears. Inertia, procrastination and lethargy creep in; you cannot make up your mind and if you allow this voice to assume dominance, then what happens next? The original voice reemerges and starts the spiral chaos all over again. “Like a wild horse desperately circling a field looking for escape”, you are stuck.

The DecisionClarity process is designed for people like you. It helps to create clarity out of confusion using a simple four step model:

1) You need to identify your question and clarify the confusion of thoughts, feelings and fears.

2) Embark on practices to discern your best course of action by engaging your intuition or inner wisdom.

3) Surrender the issue to the universe,

4) Check in for your insight and clarity.

At a recent workshop James Hollis suggested, “”Every morning when you awake there are two gremlins at the foot of your bed – fear and lethargy.” Resolving conflicting decisions can help send them on their way.

For more details on this process visit